So, Is This a Date?
By Maura Byrne | Founder of Made in His Image
Ladies, can I get a yay or nay from you in regards to this post. I genuinely welcome your feedback. Gentlemen, please feel free to chime in as well. Your input is valuable to us.
Okay, let’s give this a go…
Let’s be real, we have all been there, right? Wondering if getting coffee, dinner or grabbing a drink is a date or not.
Typical scenario…guy asks girl out. Now women tend to over think things, and every man who is reading this is probably nodding and or laughing in agreement. Am I right, or what? Therefore, when a guy asks a woman to coffee, dinner or a drink she is thinking, Wait, is this a date? Unless of course, he has specifically said, I would like to take you on a date. A rare gem right there, ladies.
There is a difference between going on dates and dating. In my opinion, a man and woman go on dates to get to know each other and to discern if there is potential for dating. So why not call it what it really is: A DATE, and bypass the ambiguity.
Why are guys afraid to use that word?
It’s no secret that our society is morally declining and it tries to persuade us ladies into believing that dating is supposed to be like the old TV show Sex and the City. Well let me tell you something, that is a lie from the pit of hell. That’s not dating, that’s glorified objectification and impurity at its finest. An authentic man doesn’t taint a woman’s purity. An authentic man stands up to heroically protect it, and vice versa. And that’s what you need to wait for. Don’t settle for less, even if it means forgoing dates.
You can’t have a relationship without vulnerability.
The human heart is a complex thing to understand. In fact, I don’t think we can ever truly comprehend the depth of the human heart and all it’s facilities. It can love passionately one minute and be crushed the next, but admits the joy and pain it keeps beating, keeping us alive. Our hearts can give, feel pain, joy, sorrow, and be pierced with disappointment. I think everyone has experienced the pain of losing someone close to them. It hurts.
Then I thought of something: God is the ultimate example of vulnerability. He came not just to give a piece of His heart to us, but all of it. He allowed the Romans to arrest Him, spit, slap and beat Him. He opened Himself up to be scourged out of love for us, as His flesh was torn from His body and blood spilled out. They roughly submerged a crown of thorns on His head, which penetrated into His skull. Then he lovingly picked up His cross and carried it to Calvary. Along the way He thought of you and I, because we were why He chose to suffer. But He never regretted a moment of His bitter and sacred passion, He only kept loving us. When He arrived at Calvary, the soldiers violently stripped Him of His garments to the point of tearing His flesh. As they pounded nails into His scared Hands and Feet, He thought of you and I, and He kept giving until He expired His last.
So despite how the world disappoints us, the people who lie to us and let us down we must keep fighting with love in our heart. We must keep striving to open our hearts to vulnerability without the fear of being hurt. And if our heart should get hurt, we must make the choice to see beauty in the opportunity to mirror Christ’s love: to give without asking anything in return.
When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women. – Archbishop Fulton Sheen
P.S. You are enough.