Hey I Just Met You…But Here’s My Number!
By Christine Saah – Guest Blogger:
Imagine this…
You walk into a place like Taco Bell with your sister for dinner. Classy right? You’re wearing your sweats and have your hair tied back in a sloppy pony tail. Boy, are you dressed up! Next, you start talking to the rather attractive cashier. You don’t think anything of it and all of a sudden he’s giving you his number. I don’t have to imagine this because it happened to me just the other day. I was really flattered, but confused. The whole dating thing and getting people’s numbers is confusing. I don’t know the way it’s supposed to happen. I wanted to share this experience, because it brought up a lot of thoughts.
First, I am a young single Catholic girl and I guess I am technically on the market. Sometimes as I pray about my vocation and consider marriage, I forget that I have to date someone before I marry my future husband. I also see my older friend’s babies and get so excited about having babies. I forget that there is so much more to the vocation of being a wife and mother than getting to show my husband and children off. If I am called to being a mother and wife, I need to help my husband and children grow in their relationship with Christ. I would love them so much that I couldn’t bare to not have them know the source of true Love, Christ Himself.
Secondly, I noticed that I felt this immediate sense of worth from such flattery. I don’t think it’s wrong to have some affirmation to boost my confidence, but I also cannot let it get to my head. The shock and excitement I got could make me blind to who the guy actually is as a person. I have to be careful not to get into crush mode, especially with someone I just met. I need to keep level-headed and keep Christ in my thoughts, and slowly get to know this person. God may have just led me to my future husband, and I can’t know for sure if I don’t give him a chance. I’m certainly not saying I am anywhere near dating this guy, but I am willing to get to know him. I’ve got to be open to things.
Lastly, I consider this encounter a smile from God. He knew that I knew I didn’t look my best, but those are the times that I get little reminders from loved ones that I am beautiful. It doesn’t matter that I didn’t look a certain way. I didn’t see myself as presentable whatsoever, but the fact is I am always presentable. I am a daughter of God. I AM NOTHING BUT BEAUTIFUL! YOU ARE TOO!
The more you allow yourself to accept this truth, the more you will believe it. Fake it until you make it. Knowing and believing are two different things, and to know is not enough. You have to believe that you are beautiful. This has been so important in my recovery and self discovery. Life is more enjoyable once you stop lingering in the negative views you have about yourself. The world is certainly the last to let you think you are enough just the way you are so you have to take care of yourself and believe in your beauty! Really, God is right there ready to give you truth. You just have to say YES!
P.S. You are enough.
